Another Great Article

December 31, 2006

Just stumbled across this in my search for more resources for introverts. This article is from The Arizona Republic. Lots of great information, especially if you have introverted children.

Have a safe and wonderful New Year!

Link via Dreams in Blue


Introverts and the Holidays

December 26, 2006

I think this is probably the hardest time of the year for us introverts. Parties, parties everywhere. With families, friends, co-workers, acquaintances and sometimes complete strangers.

I think I lucked out this year — almost. I work at a large public university and the chancellor hosts a holiday party each year to which the entire staff and faculty are invited. I wasn’t going to go, but my boss said she was going to meet someone and asked me to walk over with her. I just didn’t really feel like I could say no. And if I was with her, I wouldn’t feel too bad. Although I’ve worked there for almost two years, my job is focused more on people outside of the institution; so I really don’t know that many people yet.

As soon as we arrived at the party, she excused herself to go to the bathroom. So I was immediately on my own. I ended up hanging out with another staff member in my department; but, quite frankly, she has an odd way of introducing herself. She has the best intentions, but she does it very awkwardly. And she hasn’t learned that if she’s going to introduce herself, she should also introduce the person she’s with. It was just odd — and very uncomfortable.

I finally excused myself from her, found my boss and told her I was going back to the office. She knows me pretty well so she didn’t mind. I just don’t know why I wasted so much time before leaving. For the most part, I’ve come to accept the fact that I really don’t like parties. In our extrovert-filled world, everyone is supposed to like parties and get equal enjoyment out of them. Unless it’s a small group of people I know really well, I pretty much hate them. I just have to keep reminding myself that’s okay.

So if you’re facing parties this year, remember — just say no! It’s okay for you not to like parties.

The Introvert Manifesto

December 13, 2006

This blog started based on a few things:

The fabulous article by Jonathan Rauch from The Atlantic Online in March 2003 entitled Caring for Your Introvert. It’s the article that started it all. See the follow-up articles here and here.

A thread conversation on BlogHer about the need for an Introvert Manifesto (credit goes to Caroline for the title!).

A conversation with my sister about her introvert daughter and why she doesn’t like parties.

I hope this is a place for all of us introverts to gather, discuss, share, lament and cope with all the extroverts in our lives. Let me know what you want to see here!