Another Great Article

December 31, 2006

Just stumbled across this in my search for more resources for introverts. This article is from The Arizona Republic. Lots of great information, especially if you have introverted children.

Have a safe and wonderful New Year!

Link via Dreams in Blue


Introverts and the Holidays

December 26, 2006

I think this is probably the hardest time of the year for us introverts. Parties, parties everywhere. With families, friends, co-workers, acquaintances and sometimes complete strangers.

I think I lucked out this year — almost. I work at a large public university and the chancellor hosts a holiday party each year to which the entire staff and faculty are invited. I wasn’t going to go, but my boss said she was going to meet someone and asked me to walk over with her. I just didn’t really feel like I could say no. And if I was with her, I wouldn’t feel too bad. Although I’ve worked there for almost two years, my job is focused more on people outside of the institution; so I really don’t know that many people yet.

As soon as we arrived at the party, she excused herself to go to the bathroom. So I was immediately on my own. I ended up hanging out with another staff member in my department; but, quite frankly, she has an odd way of introducing herself. She has the best intentions, but she does it very awkwardly. And she hasn’t learned that if she’s going to introduce herself, she should also introduce the person she’s with. It was just odd — and very uncomfortable.

I finally excused myself from her, found my boss and told her I was going back to the office. She knows me pretty well so she didn’t mind. I just don’t know why I wasted so much time before leaving. For the most part, I’ve come to accept the fact that I really don’t like parties. In our extrovert-filled world, everyone is supposed to like parties and get equal enjoyment out of them. Unless it’s a small group of people I know really well, I pretty much hate them. I just have to keep reminding myself that’s okay.

So if you’re facing parties this year, remember — just say no! It’s okay for you not to like parties.


Networking Help

December 15, 2006

If you’re going to be in the business world, especially starting your own business, I think this article is helpful. The fact is, many of us introverts need to network, whether we like it or not.

This article basically says, just do it. It’s hard at first, but gets easier. I’m not sure I totally agree with that; for some of us, “just do it” is not possible. I imagine a lot of us choose jobs where do don’t have to network. But there’s some advice here that some of us will find helpful.

Via LifeHacker.


The Origins of “Introvert”

December 13, 2006

I have to begin by stating that I am not a psychologist or psychiatrist. I have no training or formal education in either of these topics. But I am a life-long introvert. What I hope to be able to do is present ideas here for review and discussion. I want introverts to be able to accept themselves for who they are and not feel that they have to change something fundamental about their personality in order to “fit in.”

I felt I needed some history of the word “introvert.” I was surprised to learn that its use as a noun is relatively modern. According to the Online Etymology Dictionary, the noun only dates to 1918 and is based on the work of Carl Jung.

I also learned that the Myers Briggs Type Indicator, which I imagine nearly everyone takes at one time in their life (I’ve now done it twice in the last 5 or 6 years) is also based on Jung’s work. There is a great introduction to Carl Jung‘s work at Wikipedia.

Myers Briggs is a huge topic and, as I’ve mentioned, I’m not really qualified to cover it in any depth. You can start with the Myers Briggs Foundation. Probably the most useful section is Trusting MBTI Information on the Web. There is an awful lot of stuff out there; as with anything on the Internet, be careful of your sources. That being said, this site seems to have a relatively good overview and will allow you to get an idea of your type if you’ve never taken the official test.


The Introvert Manifesto

December 13, 2006

This blog started based on a few things:

The fabulous article by Jonathan Rauch from The Atlantic Online in March 2003 entitled Caring for Your Introvert. It’s the article that started it all. See the follow-up articles here and here.

A thread conversation on BlogHer about the need for an Introvert Manifesto (credit goes to Caroline for the title!).

A conversation with my sister about her introvert daughter and why she doesn’t like parties.

I hope this is a place for all of us introverts to gather, discuss, share, lament and cope with all the extroverts in our lives. Let me know what you want to see here!